What do you think? I have to say that my wife definitely lets me be daddy. Whenever I change him, I "get down to business" according to the Mrs. She never says "please be careful" or "don't change him like that." She also never says please don't play with him like that, or please don't do that, or please don't do that. I credit my wife for allowing me, the daddy, take care of business the way I take care of business. She lets me play the way I play. She lets me be the daddy I am, and not the parent she wants me to be.
I picked up my fathering books again tonight to check in on the progress and growth of my little scooter. (I've decided that's his official nickname now). I reread part of "Raising A Son" which said fathers and sons have their own language when it comes to relating to one another. Roughousing and playing take on their own definition when it comes to dads and sons. That's just so neat, I think. Although Scooter may not be big enough yet, it's fun to think that when he is big enough, I will be able to play with him, relate to him, and be around him in a way that no other human being on earth will be able to take part in. I'm that guy....THAT GUY...for him. WOW! That's an amazing, and scary, responsibility. But in reality, it's just me and it's just him, being ourselves and natural, completely awesome and unmistakably perfect. I won't deny the fact that someday Scooter and I will have our differences. But at least for now, we'll have our own way to relate to each other that even him and his mother won't have, and I feel humbled and honored that I get to be his dad who gets to be a part of that.
Of course, in the same way, his mother and him will have those same abilities. I'm sure there will be plenty of "don't tell dads" or "I promise I won't tell your father" to come. I have no doubt. It's kind of funny that I'm sitting here in the dark realizing that. It's amusing. Who knows if I'll feel the same way whenever the real situation presents itself. But, I think I'm just elated about the whole thing... that both my wife and me will have our own unique relationship with the little one. But being the dad of this little boy, I think I have an awesome responsibility ahead of me. I hope that I can handle it well, to be able to teach him right, and raise him to be the type of man who is respected, the type of man who holds his own ground, and the man who cherishes a wife and family the way they should be cherished.
Being the father of a son is the highest of responsibilities there is.
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